Do The Experts Tell All About How To Save Your Marriage?

Did you ever wonder how many self help books are dedicated to the subject "How to Save Your Marriage". There are thousands of them and a lot of them are very good. With all that information available on the subject do you wonder why divorce rates are sky high all around us?

I do a lot of reading and writing on the subject of relationships. In all of this research I have found one main reason for relationships going on the rocks and that appears to be communication. It appears that marriage is taken as the end of a successful relationship instead of the beginning. Couples have no problem talking to each other while they are dating but once married it seems like they are saying "OK we reached our goal now what"?  Unfortunately the "now what", in that question, is being answered with divorce, It should be answered with an effort to maintain a loving relationship. The first thing every couple should do when committing to marriage is rule out divorce. Go ahead and talk about it, decide it will never be a reality for you and never bring it up again.

Take a step back in time. Remember when your friendship was new. Just being with each other was an exciting and even a nervous experience. You listened to each other and went out of your way to be polite. This is called respect. You still love each other but respect is taken for granted. Reaching back and rekindling that respect can be a powerful tool to be used to save your marriage.

Every relationship has its imperfections. If you learn to communicate with each other some of these can easily be worked out. In this way the annoyances like putting the cap back on the toothpaste can just be taken as one of those things that just are not important enough to divorce over.

Here is something that can really be a problem and embarrassing. I have seen couples continually criticize each other about almost every word that comes out of their mouth. This sometimes, is put into a humorous spin, and sometimes not, but either way the room becomes very uncomfortable. Stop doing this and save your marriage. To stop this once it has become a habit will take a lot of effort. Your spouse may be good hearted enough to sit and take it but every criticism drives a wedge deep into that relationship. It may be subconsciously but it does eventually have a disastrous outcome.

Above all remember that a major key to save your marriage will always be how you communicate with each other. You must talk about the important things going on in your life. Never take for granted that you have known this person so long that you don't have to ask how they feel about any given subject. You can find all kinds of advice about how to save your marriage in all those relationship books written by experts mentioned at the beginning of this article. But even the experts some time leave out fundamentals. Listen, love, and try to be understanding with each other and you will not have to save your marriage; it will always be there for you.

I hope you get the most helpful answers for you and your spouse. No one wants a bad break up. It just hurts too many people in and around the couples involved. Seek the advice of experts and take the advice of loved ones and friends with a "grain of salt" Read more in-depth advice on the subject of "Save Your Marriage", from experts, with "The Magic of Making Up".