How to Save a Marriage after a Calamity Has Struck

"Into every ones life a little rain must fall." I am sure you have heard this quote. Into all our lives, and relationships, a certain amount of disaster will firmly insert itself when it is least needed. How to save a marriage after calamity has struck can seem impossible at first but it is not. These bad times, are simply trying times, when a relationship will be tested. It will be important to have what it takes to save a marriage.

What could cause such a struggle? Let us look at the possibilities. The first thing that comes to mind is an illness of a loved one. Perhaps a parent or child that has been diagnosed terminal. The death of a close relative or friend in a sudden manner such as a car accident can be trying, and possibly disastrous, to a marriage.  There are a great number of situations that could seem devastating to you and it will take strength to save a marriage that has had these terrible events inserted into it.

The first thing you need to do is to commit yourself to each other and to vow to do whatever it takes to save a marriage. There can be great strength in commitment. If the two of you take your challenges and meet them together you will come out on top.

Remember that there is great strength in forgiveness. Does this sound hokey? Well forgiveness leads to understanding and understanding leads to healing and healing is what is needed. See how that works?

We all have a tendency to place blame for our troubles on others. Sometimes it may be deserved and other times it is not, but keep in mind, it doesn't matter. The blame game is poison to you! It will not matter how you justify it. It can only bring you misery. So selfishly it is in your best interest to forgive, understand, and let the healing begin. This is how to save a marriage. This is how to save a relationship. This is how you save you.

I hope you get the most helpful answers for you and your spouse. No one wants a bad break up. It just hurts too many people in and around the couples involved. Seek the advice of experts and take the advice of loved ones and friends with a "grain of salt" Discover more concerning the subject of relationship advice, from experts, with "The Magic of Making Up".